The problem with victims is that they may become perpetrators themselves, so as to gain some sort of power over their own autonomy, mentally trying to fix , deal with what happened to them the wrong way.
This is unless they find a more constructive means to work through what they have been through, experienced first hand, hence many victims go on to alert and support others, whereby stopping others from enduring this same thing becomes their release, their therapy , a means of re-gaining power over their own autonomy.
Due to the social expectations of men (in some cultures, circles) being both reluctant to accept the fact they were victims themselves this or report their being abused, they are more likely than woman to take on the more ugly side of managing their having been abused.
Fords, I'll bet you had a violent controlling father or mother who probably still towers over you emotionally to this day calling the shots re- every aspect of your life, (perhaps not physically),.... and I'll bet to this day he/she scares the shit out of you, this is why you set about scaring the shit out of everyone else, (woman and men I have noticed) so as to assume anything other than the helpless vulnerable victim role you felt as a child, youth....so as to regain some of your autonomy.
But believe me, you are still every bit a victim, it's just unlike some, you have taken to abusing and threatening perfect strangers, (they are your punching bag) because you know if you ever hit your Mrs and kids, you will look like the brute you are.
I can tell by your macho demeanor, the way you skite about your son being a big, black lad, the size of a small giant even before he could walk.
Is he your first real son to Kez?
Symbolic of your virility and manhood?
Because you sent me pics of him, but not your other kids, this and rarely ever mention the others...only your newest son....which tells me instinctively, he is the golden haired boy, your only real son.
I'll bet you were a wiry framed kid,(not a big bloke yourself)who was bulied at school and bulied others too...(lousy grades, disadvantaged background) who's dad was a labourer and say into boxing or football perhaps?..This and was forever telling you to man the fuck up, stop being a princess and a sook.... Yes?
Dont make the same mistake with your own boy, let him cry, he has a good reason to having a jerk of a father like you.
You may not abuse your wife or children physically, but you definitely have emotionally, this and continue bullying woman and men on the net who challenge you on all manner of issues concerning your wounded pride.
You need validation, need people to think you are one BIG BLACK K**NT (as you put it)...but do you know what we really think?
We think you are a fucking tool with a big mouth and no balls threatening woman and kids the way you do online.
Call me what you like Frodo, but you can never say i'm dishonest.
I first took an interest in finding out who you were when you first threatened to rape and kill me, this and have my son bashed in his school.
Not to harass you, but to make it clear I wont stand for this online harassment and thuggery.
I dont care who and what you are, to me you are just a selfish pig who thinks with his dick and not his head.
Sociology degree my ass, you're probably smashed off your head on pain killers as we speak pretending to have a bad back.
Dont come back to my forum again, or I will contact your local police station and give them your mobile number and wad of yahoo screen saves.
And if I ever see you threatening anyone, man woman or child on yahoo again, I will pack a punch even your drunk old man would have been proud of.
Got it?